OK, I'm fine with my daughter's favorite dress being a long black velvet gown, I even let her older brother wear it out when he wants, and I am fine with the evil glares she gives people and the way she yells "Bahh!" at the old ladies when they say she is cute, and that when I asked her what her favorite carebear was she said "Dark heart" (the villian) , and I could deal with her throwing out her cute little pink bobbletop stocking cap and grabbing a purple witch hat with spiderwebs on it which she wears whenever it rains, and I haven't even said anything since lately she has been drawing huge black or purple circles around her eyes with markers and going to daycare like this, but now she is coloring my youngest baby too!

My question is this: She is not even 3 yet. Is this normal?

I forgot to say that she has absolutley no exposure to anything "Goth", I am more of the rainbows and bubbles type.

I also forgot to mention that when she plays with her little stuffed kittens and her baby dolls, she lines them up in a row on their backs and sits there and says., "Kitty dead. Baby dead. Baby dead, Kitty dead." She buried a toy kitten in my sugar cannister and hid it in the fridge, and when I asked her about it, she just smiled and gave me a really weird laugh.

Is there anything I can do now to assure that she won't be leading a cult of highschoolers to kill her ex-boyfriend when she is 15, or should I just let her be herself? She has been dark since she was an infant.

Erynn

Ahhh youth







(sorry not a phycologist(sp))

Well, like one of my ex's said to me, "you didn't choose goth, goth chose you".

Not Goth wrote:OK, I'm fine with my daughter's favorite dress being a long black velvet gown, I even let her older brother wear it out when he wants, and I am fine with the evil glares she gives people and the way she yells "Bahh!" at the old ladies when they say she is cute, and that when I asked her what her favorite carebear was she said "Dark heart" (the villian) , and I could deal with her throwing out her cute little pink bobbletop stocking cap and grabbing a purple witch hat with spiderwebs on it which she wears whenever it rains, and I haven't even said anything since lately she has been drawing huge black or purple circles around her eyes with markers and going to daycare like this, but now she is coloring my youngest baby too!

My question is this: She is not even 3 yet. Is this normal?

I forgot to say that she has absolutley no exposure to anything "Goth", I am more of the rainbows and bubbles type.

I also forgot to mention that when she plays with her little stuffed kittens and her baby dolls, she lines them up in a row on their backs and sits there and says., "Kitty dead. Baby dead. Baby dead, Kitty dead." She buried a toy kitten in my sugar cannister and hid it in the fridge, and when I asked her about it, she just smiled and gave me a really weird laugh.

Is there anything I can do now to assure that she won't be leading a cult of highschoolers to kill her ex-boyfriend when she is 15, or should I just let her be herself? She has been dark since she was an infant.

Erynn

She's a witch! Burn her!

Buttercup wrote:Well, like one of my ex's said to me, "you didn't choose goth, goth chose you".

At 2 1/2 ? That's what worries me.

maybe she just likes the colors?


you should worry if she starts listening to morrisey

They grow up so fast!! aawww!!

you should worry if she starts listening to morrisey

Dude, don't worry if she listens to Morrison, then you give her a hippie dress, and let her dance in the desert.


X- you otta be ashamed!

I've actually considered buying her some Morrisey and some Cure at the used CD store, I want to be a supportive mom, but then I had these visions of the Morrisey fans I have known, and with an uncontrollable shudder put the CDs back on the shelf!

AWWWWWWWw thats so cute....at least she isnt harming the baby!! I mean not all of us dark and brooding types hurt ourselves or other people.....just buy her a copy of the Bell Jar and some black nailpolish....she'll be fine! I thinks its cool, I hope my kid is all smug and dark and likes spiderwebs more than pink...!

Mistress Eve(L) wrote: I hope my kid is all smug and dark and likes spiderwebs more than pink...!

dear, after last night, you can't say anything about anyone liking pink

Me and my girlfriend had 10 min. laugh over that. That's most likely going to be our kid one day. You seem to be a wonderful mother to not chain her up and hit her with the bible or something like some people. There should be more mother's like you who give their children choices like that. I would say, as long as she knows right from wrong, she should turn out fine. She's also lucky to have a mother who supports who she is, many parents try to look past that, take it as a failure or something. Eh...there goes my two cents. I'm out.

Coor wrote:

you should worry if she starts listening to morrisey

Dude, don't worry if she listens to Morrison, then you give her a hippie dress, and let her dance in the desert.


X- you otta be ashamed!

Coor....you are dumb

Morrisey=the Smiths

not Morrison

stoooooopid



and cure albums are ok.

you just gotta realise that anything you give a small child, is going to be played over and over and over. I still wouldn't worry about it.....

Dude I'm like a special kid. If I see Morri, then it gets related to Morrison.You, of all people, should know that by now.

It's been my observation that souls who have spent very little time disincarnate often express themselves with profound behavior traits early on in the new embodiment. From that narrow perspective, the supposition might be that your daughter's most recent past life ended recently and either her former self-expression was goth-like or the experiences of death are still with her so she is expressing her reaction to them with this behavior. In many cases where profound recollection of past life experiences takes place from two to four years of age, the child will gradually forget as she integrates this life's experiences into her sense of self. As always, the best advice for any parent is: be patient, loving, caring, understanding and supportive. "Cookies need love like everything does."

ok i think we need a gregory to english translator

I'm sure the intelligent, educated or initiated understand exactly what I said. It's called a dictionary, look into it.

I understood what he said......

Dude, don't worry if she listens to Morrison, then you give her a hippie dress, and let her dance in the desert.

... I see X has already pointed out the difference between the smiths and the doors. Thank you though, I had a good laugh.

Perhaps your being all "rainbows and bubbles" is the problem... It would scare me. Or simply, velvet is nice and fuzzy, a witch's hat is far more fun than a beanie, and she's at the age where she is learning about death (acting it out with toys) and makeup (attempting eyeliner w/ markers).

What's with the screen name? If you don't want to be mistakingly associated, why are you trusting us with the welfare of your children? Maybe you should ask Dr. Phil instead.

But maybe you should start reading her some good ole fire-and-brimstone bible stories just to be on the safe side...

Vachy wrote:

Dude, don't worry if she listens to Morrison, then you give her a hippie dress, and let her dance in the desert.

... I see X has already pointed out the difference between the smiths and the doors. Thank you though, I had a good laugh.

LOL, me too! I almost choked on my cereal.

Kids these days.....