I know this isn't a personals site per say, but please just hear me out: I'm a 47-year old man living in east TN. I'm looking for any goth women in the area who might want to be friends. I've always found gothic women to be fascinating & desirable. I'm not really looking for anything more than friendship. I'd love to have more of course, but I'd be happy with just a good friend.

I'm not really goth myself, I'm just looking for a girl to spend time with. I'm a good listener, have a great sense of humor & I enjoy giving foot massages.

Not only is this not a personals site per se, this isn't a personals site at all.

The internet is full of personals sites. KG isn't one. All you're going to accomplish with this approach here is pissing people off.

Trust me, it will be less tolerated here than on KF.

Try findagoth.com

Not cool.

Randall wrote: I'm not really looking for anything more than friendship.

Um, actually you're looking for "a girl to act out my fanaties with",
if you read your ad on KF.

All I can say is, this ain't the personals!

As you say, that was in the post over at KF, NOT here. I knew that sort of thing wouldn't fly here, so I toned down my post.

Actually, I'm looking for friends AND girls to act out my fantasies with. So I posted on both sites.

Is that so terribly wrong?

You're one of those humans aren't you?

Yes, I am a human, a NICE human. I'm not a psycho, not some sort of sexual predator, just a lonely man who'd love to spend time with a lovely young woman, getting to know her & doing whatever she wanted to do.

Sex? Of course! But it would also be okay if we were just friends.

OK, let me try this again - it apparently didn't take the first time.

Randall, you may be the nicest guy in East Tennessee - but you're coming across like a creep. If you want to get to know people, TRY ANOTHER APPROACH. THIS ONE DOESN'T WORK HERE.

Seriously, one more post that sounds like a personal ad, and you're gone.

If you'd like, I'll remove this thread, and give you a chance to start again.

Here's a hint: try telling us something about yourself, not who you're looking for.

Yeah, I would pretty much never hang out with someone who posted something like that.

Look up Frankenhooker if you want something like that...

We are humans, not just creatures to act out your fantasies with. No self respecting person is who they are to please the fantasies of so called "normal people."

I'd say you are actually going to have to have more than a sexual interest in the subculture to get laid by one of its members. Your best luck is to find someone else thats desperate, and buy them some black clothes and fishnet, lol.

Fuck, i'm seduced by this guy.

Randall wrote:Yes, I am a human, a NICE human. I'm not a psycho, not some sort of sexual predator, just a lonely man who'd love to spend time with a lovely young woman, getting to know her & doing whatever she wanted to do.

Sex? Of course! But it would also be okay if we were just friends.

even though you went about the wrong way to get to know someone. you are right about one thing, you're not the psycho, i am dammit!!

seriously if i were you and wanting to get to know someone for companionship, you bring that stuff up after you have established yourself a little. make friends first ask questions like that later.

i'd also suggest going into the public light to get to know a lady. you aren't going to do that on any thread. up close and personal is better. it's just more respectful.

do you ever go out to clubs or bars? in knoxville the electric balroom on saturday nights is a good place to start. just get to know people and see where it goes. thats how the rest of us do it. good luck.

TEMPLE is the name of the club night.

B_Ko wrote:Fuck, i'm seduced by this guy.

i just dont know what to say

I was just trying to be honest. You all sound really judgmental to me.

Randall wrote:I was just trying to be honest. You all sound really judgmental to me.

let me start over, welcome to the forum, and plz enjoy your stay,

Randall wrote:I was just trying to be honest. You all sound really judgmental to me.

We are not judgemental, we are just extremely cautious. There have been others that have attempted to "hook up with goth girls" via the forum and they were met with extreme hostility. So actually, we're being nice by just verbally slapping your hands over your post instead of letting you know in no uncertain terms that most of us "goth girls" would just as soon kick your ass as look at you over behavior like this.

If you really want to meet people and get to know any or all of us, come out to an event such as Temple or a Sanctus event, conduct yourself as a gentleman and get to know us in a public setting. Who knows, you might be able to redeem yourself socially.

'Most of us goth girls would just as soon kick your ass as look at your over behavior like this.'

WHAT behavior? All I said was that I wanted to meet someone. And I've received nothing but judgmental comments, smart-ass remarks & now physical threats.

And I'm the one with the problem? I don't think so.

Randall wrote:I was just trying to be honest. You all sound really judgmental to me.

don't get me wrong...i wish you welcome.

i just wanted to be helpful